Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Sliding Gracefully

A friend once told me that when it comes to work, when you get a bit too comfortable, that's when you should do something about it.

And hey, I did.

I will take on a new post tomorrow. Wider scope, wider network.



"Dear Hanah
     Thank you for:
       - Noticing biler baju koyak
       - Noticing biler baju kotor
       - Lukiskan map pergi tempat sedap
       - Help me to change money
       - Bawak makan tempat sedap
       - Many many other things!!
--> Don't be a stranger
--> In case you need more pens
* Sorry smudge because I'm left handed                                                                          --> Going to miss you
--> Good luck!

YazminZ"

Once again, I will venture into the unknown.

Good or bad, at least I know that I've discovered this path.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Like Spring


Sometimes it feels good to start a fresh conversation with someone new.. or someone you haven't seen or spoken to for a long time. I have been doing a lot of this in the past 2 years. Its makes me happy because.. well, that's how I am.

It feels good because it feels like you're riding on a new experience.
Like you're reading a book and you're letting your imagination dive in with the words you read.
Like going to the airport knowing that you'll embrace a new culture.

But really, it's like a breath of fresh air.

That, to me, is a learning curve.

Just that.

My Prerogative

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Saturday, July 28, 2012

One for Ramadhan

In world where a woman's value seem focused on her sexual charm, you don't need to go far to see that the combination of woman and sex are everywhere. The world has been painted a picture of how a perfect woman should look like or how they should act. I think I've done pretty good in avoiding society's demands of having women look a certain way.

Year after year, I see more friends and acquaintances bring their selves closer to God and donning the hijab.
Alhamdulillah for them. In my humble opinion, society nowadays are more open to women who wears the hijab. They are more respectful of women in hijab in the corporate world. Young women now are more comfortable being amongst society - mainly because of the fact that young women today are more experimental of how they can cover their aurah and still be fashionable. However, nowadays, most if not all choose the headcover for religious reasons, others for culture or even fashion.


There was a time that I seriously considered doing so as well, but I wanted to make sure that I was really ready for it. But really, if you think about it, put aside thoughts of going to the beach in a bikini, or praying 5 times a day. You can cleanse yourself after you start wearing the hijab, permanently. My concern is that donning the hijab is one thing, but practising Islam in its rightful manner is another; I fail to perform my prayers 5 times a day. I wanted to "cleanse" myself first before I wear the hijab. I feel that I would be a traitor if I put on a hijab but I know that I am not a good Muslim. 


But the fact is, it's compulsory for every Muslim women to cover their aurah..

InsyaAllah, I will come to that 5 points; Surrender, Submission, Obedience, Sincerity and Peace.


For now, I refuse to be among those people that just because Ramadhan is here, they pretend to be a better Muslim. May Allah forgive me for my sins, ignorance, arrogance, for being ungrateful and impatient.


Allah, give me Hidayah.. Ameen.

You're Wrong, I'm Not

Probably the best soundtrack to my life right now..


Saturday, July 21, 2012

Fasting starts Now!

The month of Ramadhan is here.

Selamat Berpuasa..


On another note, I need to start writing. Been at a "writer's block" too long.
All this short entries are depressing.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Some People Are Born Lucky

While some of us.. well, we have it differently.
But we're still happy!

*gonna include pictures when I'm home*

Thursday, July 12, 2012

The Irony

How do you console someone who's had his heart, broken?
How do you help a friend going through marital problems?
How do you open up and voice out your pain?
How do you move on when acceptance is hard to grasp?
How do I write when my thoughts, hurts me?

Sometimes, there's so much that I want to say but saying them all will not change the past. 
Sometimes, there's a limit to sharing what you want to say.
But who's to say where you draw the line?

What I've come to realise is that, sometimes, it is okay to be selfish.
It is okay to make yourself happy.
It is okay if you cannot please everyone.
It is really okay to brush off all the perceptions and judgements that people have on you.
It is okay if the most riduculous things make you happy.

Who's to say you cannot be happy?
Who's to say you cannot laugh out loud at the dinner table?
Who's to say you shouldn't smile?
Who's to say you cannot wear sneakers?

Nobody else knows what you truly feel, what you really want to project to the world but yourself.

I am Me. 

The choices I make is the path I wish to live by.
Stationaries, makes me happy.
Toiletries shopping, makes me happy.
Quality, makes me happy.
Singing, makes me happy.
Airports, makes me happy.
Airplanes, makes me happy.
The moon, makes me happy.
My parents pecking me on my cheeks, makes me happy.
My siblings bickering, makes me happy.
My nieces and my nephew getting into trouble, makes me happy.
Farts makes me happy.
Little things in life makes me happy.

And these little things, they make a huge difference to how my heart reacts to the world.

I've been farting a lot lately, and the thought of having to control myself when I'm in a meeting, when I'm walking with a friend, when I'm eating, cracks me up!

A friend once told me that I can never run dry of optimism.

I am going to hang on to that.

Signing off with a smile on my face, and in my heart. =)

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

My Silver Lining

Could it really be?

Am I really given a second chance? To do things right?

Alhamdulillah.. Rezeki. I will say that yes, everything does happen for a reason - or many. You just need to start looking and stop dwelling. Everything that you do, points back to your niat. Your  niat will ultimately guide the path of your life.

Acceptance is hard - I'm one to say - but it's alright to let go and move on.
What's the point of clinging on to things that in actual fact, haunts you?
It may take a while, but once you're there, you'll feel a great sense of relief.
Yes.
Relief is the best word to describe it.

And everything past that, will be exhilarating.

There will be that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
There will be that light at the end of the tunnel.

And this, This is my silver lining.

It's never really about the Brand

but it's always about how you wear it.

Monday, July 2, 2012

Before You Turn 25


I found this while browsing the world wide web. I find that this is worth sharing mainly because I could relate to most of her points. I think this will forever be useful to me and the newly employed - even if you are above 25.

I turned 24 on June 14 - great article!


 
Orginal Source: http://www.prdaily.com/Main/Articles/12049.aspx

 

25 things young professionals must know before 25

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Last month, I turned 25. Since becoming gainfully employed, I’ve made a lot of professional mistakes—and learned a few things, along the way. Here are 25 of them. Let me know if you agree, or what you would add to this list.

By 25, you should know how to:

1. Take rejection with poise.

By now you should’ve faced some sort of professional rejection. My favorite was having my résumé handed back to me after a job interview.

2. Do your own bitch work.

Empathy is an important trait for all managers. Knowing what it’s like to do the grunt work makes you appreciate those who have to do it after you. Assuming that you are not above anything will help you soar in your career.

3. Craft an appropriate LinkedIn connection invite request.

I don’t mind getting LinkedIn connection requests from random people, but it irritates me when they don’t have a tailored message and instead use the standard LinkedIn invite line. Here’s an idea for something that could work: “Hi Jenny, I noticed we both work in the Chicago marketing scene and wanted to connect with you. Maybe I could buy you a cup of coffee/tea in the near future to learn more about what you do?”

4. Ask for a raise.

When you’re worth more than you earn, you need to know how to ask for more. After being out of school for three years, learn how to broach the topic. Not sure how to do that? Read this.

5. Delegate work.

Delegating responsibility is underrated. By 25, you should know when it’s appropriate to delegate and how to do it. For example, if someone asks me to perform a task that is within my power, but I don’t have the time for it, I look for the colleague it makes most sense to perform that task regularly, and ask him or her to do it.

6. Pick your battles.

Not every battle is worth fighting; you should know which are worth your time and energy. Getting upset with the way someone sends incessant emails takes a backseat to someone who fails to communicate important pieces of information.

7. Unplug.

Once you answer that work email at 11 p.m., you set a precedent that you’re available 24/7. Unless it’s an emergency, try not to check your work email (or mark it unread and deal with it when you get to the office).

8. Put in your two-weeks' notice.

If you’re lucky enough to have loved your first job out of college and are still there by 25, bravo! But you should know how to tactfully put in your two weeks’ notice, if you make a career move. This requires a written resignation. Here’s a great guide on doing the dirty deed.

9. Tactfully give your business card at a networking event.

No one likes the business card ninja who swoops in, throws his or her card at you, and leaves you stunned. First, have a conversation with someone. Find out stuff you have in common. Then offer your card as a way to stay in touch.

10. Avoid getting sloppy at a networking event.

An open bar doesn’t give you permission to act like you did at college frat parties. Have a few drinks to loosen up, but keep it professional.

11. Prioritize your time.

For example, tackle your bigger work issues toward the beginning of the day and save your smaller, less important tasks for the end of the day when you’re winding down. Remember: There’s always tomorrow.

12. Set professional goals.

You want accomplishments on your résumé, not just finished tasks. Setting annual professional goals will set you on track to advance your career. Meeting mentors in your industry through networking events and LinkedIn will help you realize what goals you need to prioritize.

13. Send an SOS.

Chances are you’ve felt overwhelmed by your workload at least once in your career. Knowing when and how to send a help signal to your manager and or co-workers is essential to preventing burnout.

14. Conduct an interview.

Knowing how to interview someone is an important skill. Not only does it teach you how to ask the right questions, but also it teaches you what skill set and personality you value in yourself and your potential co-workers.

15. Communicate.

Communication, when done well, sets you apart from other young professionals. Good communication is a strong asset, so learn it while you’re in the beginning stages of your career. For example, when emailing project specs, I copy as many people I think will benefit from the discussion. Bringing someone in during the later stages of development could mean painful—and unnecessary—back-peddling.

16. Handle being caught venting about co-workers.

It happens to the best of us. Your co-worker commits a major faux pas, and you need to vent about it to another co-worker. Then you get caught. Knowing how to turn it into a dialogue with constructive criticism—or knowing how to avoid it all together—is important.

17. Not sweat the small stuff (you’re not curing cancer).

Unless, of course, you are curing cancer. Then disregard. Ask yourself, “Will this matter a year from now?” If not, don’t sweat it. Acknowledge your mistake and learn from it.

18. Invest in your 401(k)—or at least think about it.

The numbers don’t lie. Someone who starts saving before the age of 25 accrues more interest than someone who starts saving at 30. Not sure how much to invest? This is a great guide.

19. Be a team player.

No one likes a selfish co-worker. Learn this healthy habit early in your career to get ahead of those who didn’t. You can operate under the “CYA” (cover your ass) mentality, just make sure it doesn’t turn into a “TUB” (throw under the bus) one.

20. Talk to the CEO of your company.

Get sweaty palms talking to authority figures? Nix those nerves now.

21. Lead a meeting.

You’ll need to learn how eventually, why not get it out of the way before you turn 25? Have a meeting agenda, and make sure you open it for discussion as often as you can so you’re not the only one talking. Also, you can take it one step further by following up with action items and decisions made during the meeting.

22. Ask for time off without feeling guilty.

You earn your time off, so it’s important to take it with a clean conscience. If you’re planning on having a “Treat yo self” day, look into local brewery tours, daytime trapeze classes, or some simple retail therapy.

23. Put together a visual report.

Putting information into a strong visual report speaks volumes more than just throwing the numbers onto a spreadsheet and clicking send. About 60 percent of people are visual learners, so it’s important to make your information pop with charts and graphs.

24. Give your elevator pitch.

Since I work for a small company, the question I get asked the most is, “What’s Ragan?” It took some practice, but I finally got my company’s elevator pitch down a few months after joining the team. Not sure what yours is? Listen to what your co-workers say.

25. Be a mentor.

By the time you’re three years out of college, you will have had at least one younger person ask you for career advice. Understanding the impact you have as a mentor is powerful, and the relationships you have with mentees can be some of the most rewarding ones you’ll have in your mid-20s.

Jenny Fukumoto is a marketing manager at Ragan Communications, which publishes PR Daily. She is also a self-proclaimed Mexicanese marketer, beer buff and networking nerd. A version of this story first appeared on Ragan’s Millennial Mafia blog.